It is a beautiful snowy day in our small hometown in Ohio currently, I am trying to figure out what to say to provide you with some sort of comfort for the difficult decisions you face. Honestly, I have no clue what you are going through and the only words of comfort and hope that I can offer are these, my wife and I have been praying for you and your child daily that God would give you comfort and guidance during your difficult time of decision. We have faced a lot of adversity in our marriage as well, but in order to understand all that, I would like to take you on our journey of how we met and came to this moment in our lives where all of our paths may connect.
My wife and I met in August of 1999 on the first day of school of our eighth grade year. It was love at first sight for me, but for her, she did not want anything to do with me until our Junior year of high school in 2002. We both graduated in 2004 and a month later I proposed and she said yes. We married in September of 2006 and two years later, we decided to start trying to have our own biological children.
We decided to start having biological children in the summer of 2008 and after trying with no luck, we sought infertility treatment. We had two miscarriages, countless surgeries, hundreds of injections, and the only thing we achieved was ten years of heartache. The doctors finally found out what was wrong and determined that having biological children of our own was not possible and with this crushing news, we were devastated. We prayed about the situation for months and our answer came while I was driving down a long road early last summer. Adoption! My mother was adopted by her father, my aunt adopted two children, my uncle adopted his son, so adoption has always been a part of my life in some way, but this revelation for us to adopt filled us with excitement and hope that we had not felt in years.
I am a seventh grade middle school teacher and I teach in the very same room that I met my wife in way back in 1999. I also coach football and I am in charge of the Chess Club at school. My wife is a certified medical assistant at a local doctors office. If we were to adopt, our intentions are for my wife to work part-time. While we are both working, we have a large family network in our area that will assist in childcare for us. I have three siblings and my wife has four. Our parents live in the area, as well as our grandparents. We also have a total of eight nieces and nephews ranging from ages 1 to 13! They are all very excited and supportive of our decision to adopt and will love the newest addition to the family! Last but not least, we have a dog named Bella. We rescued her from the animal shelter when she was a puppy and she is very excited to be a Nana Bell!
My wife and I enjoy traveling, with our favorite vacation spot being Pigeon Forge, TN! We make at least one trip there every summer and try to find a place we have never been before at another time during the year. We are both very active in our local church as well. I am a preacher, Sunday school teacher, and the drummer of our church praise team. My wife is the church secretary and she plays the piano and sings at church. During the summer I volunteer at a church camp in southern Ohio as well. We both love music, movies, history, travelling, and family! Our lives are full of excitement and fun, but we are missing that special piece that brings joy and that is the excitement, smile, and laughter of a child.
We have a ranch style home with three bedrooms and a large backyard and patio area. We have fires, roast marshmallows with friends and really enjoy spending time just sitting and enjoying our little piece of heaven. We look forward to filling the yard with swing sets, tents, and any other thing that may come along with parenthood!
My wife and I would like to have an open adoption if you are comfortable with that. This could be letters and pictures, occasional phone calls or even visits. We are open to whatever you are comfortable with. If you were to select us, you will forever be a part of our family and we want what is best for you. We would love to meet you in person if you are comfortable to do so. If you would rather, we could talk on the phone. We want what is best for you and your baby.
Once again, there is nothing I can say that will bring you answers or lift the heaviness that you may feel during this time of difficult decisions, but please know this, although I do not know you or the child that you carry, God does. Our prayer has been for several months now that you find peace and guidance in this time of great decision and that you find encouragement in your time of need.
God Bless and with Love,
Ryan & Leah
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