Dear Birth Mother,
We cannot begin to imagine all that you are contemplating right now and we strive to embody the courage and love that you are demonstrating by considering adoption for your child. One of Shell’s favorite quotes, which is tattooed on her side, is from Mother Teresa and says, “It is not the magnitude of our actions, but the amount of love we put into them that matters”. We so admire the love that you have for your child and hope to give that kind of big, sacrificial love as parents one day.
Our story started out over twenty years ago as an unassuming friendship. Nate met Shell’s younger brother, Russ, in 3rd grade and they quickly became best friends. Nate and Russ were pretty much inseparable (and still are). Shell and I spent a lot of time on together going on bike rides, playing basketball and attending country music concerts. Since we are three years apart in age, we always considered ourselves friends until the wind changed in West Texas. In 2013, Shell moved to Lubbock, Texas, which is very windy, to start her first hospital nursing job. She happened to move to the same town where Nate was finishing college. We quickly realized that we weren’t little kids anymore and had very real feelings for each other. Dating turned into a marriage in 2016. The wedding took place in Shell’s childhood backyard where we spent so many afternoons playing together.
We love spending time together, especially outdoors. Some of our favorite things to do include: camping, hiking, skiing, running with our dog Sierra, paddle boarding, watching Texas Tech basketball, game nights, trying new foods, watching movies and traveling internationally. Nate loves to play golf, ping pong and is an excellent handyman around our house. Shell loves to bake, garden, do yoga and read in her spare time.
Shell is unable to have children due to complications of surgeries she had as a child to treat ulcerative colitis. She feels lucky to be in great health now but is unable to conceive. We talked about this extensively prior to getting married and both felt that we wanted a family regardless of whether or not our children would be biologically related to us. That being said, we are thrilled at the thought of becoming parents and raising a family.
Our family and friends have been very supportive of our plans to adopt. Our parents continually ask for updates and are eager to welcome a new grand baby to the family. Whether it is a Thanksgiving trip to Nate’s dad’s Christmas tree farm or baking cookies with Shell’s mom, we can’t wait to share these experiences with our future child.
Thank you for reading a little bit about us. If we seem like people that you would be interested in developing a relationship with, we would love to talk with you.
Nate and Shell