We are Matt and Erin. When we got married over 9 years ago, we weren’t sure if we wanted to have children. This might be a strange thing to disclose at the top of an adoption letter, but we think it’s important that you see our full journey to parenthood, and that began with a big question mark. But what had a big exclamation mark was wanting to marry one another. We met in law school, and when it became clear we were going to make a life together we argued (like true lawyers!) about whether we would live in Southern California or Chicago. Erin proposed sunshine all-year-round and Matt proposed marriage. We tied the knot surrounded by family and friends in Yosemite, worked (and worked and worked) until we paid off student loans, and bought our first home. We couldn’t have been happier. At least that’s what we thought.
Then Erin’s brother and sister-in-law had children, and before we knew it, we were head over heels for those little nuggets. Suddenly that question mark began to fade and we felt called to parenthood. By our seventh year of marriage, we knew in bold print, upper case letters, and an exclamation point that we were ready to have a baby. Our son, Dominic, was born in August of 2018. While our pregnancy and birth had complications, today our son is thriving and is oh so smart, energetic, curious, funny, and an all-around joy. Erin is happy to be a stay-at-home mom and use her training as a teacher (she earned a teaching credential and Masters in Teaching after a few years as an attorney) to show him new skills, patterns, words, and concepts. Matt receives no fewer than 5 videos and 15 photos of Dominic while he’s at work each day, and he cherishes every single one of them. We truly love being parents, and have never been happier.
And so the question naturally arises: are we going to have more children? The answer is “yes,” but we do not feel called to have another biological child. We don’t feel called to “find a child” for our family, but rather we feel a call to be the family that you have been looking for to steward and love your baby. We believe Dominic is your baby’s older brother, ready to form that sibling bond with unquestionable protectiveness and shared childhood memories and inside jokes. Above all else, your baby will be nurtured and celebrated as a child of God, with carefully-curated gifts and talents meant to reflect His Kingdom and His fruitful spirit.
We are aware and embrace that our adoption will most likely be a transracial adoption. We have made, and will continue to make, efforts to increase our racial literacy and become part of the community that works toward racial reconciliation in our country. We believe that every human is the Imago Dei, creations that reflect the image of God (Genesis 1:26), and that we all answer to the names that God calls us from Ephesians: redeemed, cherished, forgiven, adopted, chosen, known, seen, whole, loved, and saved. Further, we will work to practice positive, intentional racial socialization to help your baby negotiate racial realities at different stages of life, this includes providing opportunities for authentic relationships with people who share your baby’s race and ethnicity.
And so, it’s in bold print, upper case letters, and an exclamation mark with no question in sight that we want to adopt your baby and make you both part of our family. This isn’t our second choice when other plans didn’t work out: this is our outright first choice in how we want to add a second child to our family. This is where we feel called. Loud and clear. We pray you share our enthusiastic punctuation as well. Nothing could make us happier.
With so much love,
Matt + Erin
We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you want more information about us or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight at 714-693-5437.