So many things to say, so many emotions flood through my heart. What does one write to convey their yearning to be a parent? We are both at a crossroad where such discernment is needed. My husband and I long to be parents, to love a child unconditionally. You long for your baby to know love and to be loved, even if it means someone else is doing the loving as well. It is with deepest respect and humility that I write this letter to you. Adoption is so many things, however, easy is not one of them. Its messy, it’s complicated, it’s difficult, but it’s also extremely beautiful. We cannot imagine the array of feelings you are experiencing during this process, this difficult time in life. We thank you for your courage and your strength, and we truly appreciate you taking the time to get to know us a little bit better.
My husband and I have the highest admiration and respect for you. Not only because of the tough, life changing decisions you face, but also for your amazing love for your child. Your act of sacrifice shows such grace and love, a kind of love that is all encompassing, a love your baby will know. We honor and value the love you have for your child, and we want your child to always feel your love, to know your love. The beautiful thing about adoption is that the child will be loved and cherished by many. The child will know and feel love, and in turn someday be able to love others with such passion and joy. Yes, adoption is beautiful! Adoption is a God thing. We are all adopted by him, which is all the comfort I will ever need.
Adoption has always been on our minds. We met in the spring of 2007 and instantly hit it off. Our first date lasted for almost eight hours. We knew that God led us to each other. We married in June of 2009 with our family and friends present. It was a joyous day, a day full of promise and hope. Soon after we were married we experienced great sorrow. A time when we were dreaming of starting our own family, we lost several members of our own. God needed more angels and we needed to become stronger. Mission accomplished. Left with holes in our hearts, we decided to start living again and to start a family. We needed happiness. We knew it would be difficult, but we needed to try. We had an emotional three years of fertility treatments. We lost a baby early on in our pregnancy. It was a dark time for us. We desperately needed to feel God’s love, his plan for us. Adoption was always something we wanted to do, and we kept turning to the idea of it.
The idea of adoption brought peace and comfort during an overwhelmingly sad time. We prayed and prayed and the idea grew stronger. The comfort and peace began to heal wounds. Adoption is our path. It is known to us now. We are blessed to have experienced a broken path, because it will allow us to experience extreme joy in the child that God had planned for us all along.
Kyle is a man with a plan and a big heart. He is strong-willed and determined. Nothing gets in his way. He was in a car accident at the age of thirteen, which then resulted in him being a quadriplegic. He pushed through this time of adversity and came out a better man because of it. He knows what it is like to face challenging times, but he also knows he can’t do it alone. His faith in God is strong and true. He didn't let his condition hold him back from enjoying life. His kind heart and persevering nature makes him a great friend, husband, and someday he will be a great father.
I have been told I have a huge heart for others. I care deeply about my family, friends, and my students at school. I have a passion for making things special and beautiful, something I learned from my mom. Birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions are always celebrated to the fullest in our house. I desire to carry on special family traditions with our child and I yearn for the day I can celebrate their success.
Kyle and I live on a small farm with two dogs, several chickens, and three adorable goats. We enjoy spending time outside with the animals and spending time in our hydroponic garden. We also enjoy trying new restaurants and taking strolls through small, quaint downtowns. Kyle and I also love to travel and see new places. Kyle has even been to Alaska! I enjoy music and play several instruments. We love our little farm and the life that we built here. The only thing missing is a child.
We have a great support system within our church and within our family. Our church has many young families and young couples, whom we enjoy spending time fellowshipping with. We both help out with our Sunday school class and I sing in the choir. Kyle is an elder at our church and very active in his committees. He also enjoys giving the children at church rides on his wheelchair. They call it rocket ship. His chair rises up and has flashing back-up lights. We have a very close nit family. We may be missing several integral members, but our love is still strong and our bond is stronger because of the loss. My dad lives in the mountains, but travels down quite often and we travel up there as well. He has a neat cabin on top of a mountain with views of a cow filled valley below. The cabin was my mom’s dream home. He chooses to live out her dream for her. He sings in a barbershop quartet and is very active in a hiking club. Kyle has three younger brothers who we are also close with and two nephews that we adore. Holidays are always full of family and laughter.
As a birthmother making plans for a child, we know you are in a difficult time of life. Please know that God has a plan for you and your baby, and we pray that you find comfort and peace in whatever decision you make. We are here for you and if you desire, we would love to meet you.
Kyle and Joanne
We are represented by Nighlight Christian Adoptions. If you want more information about us or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight at 866-832-3678