Dear Expectant Parent,
Our hearts go out to you as you are undoubtedly in the midst of one of the most difficult decisions of your life. Our hope is that you will find clarity and peace in your journey. We are thankful for the opportunity to share our story with expectant parents such as yourself, and we pray that our story can bring hope, regardless of whether we have any contact beyond this letter.
Jim and I met, fell in love, and got married in Hawaii. In the ten years since we met, we have lived in many different places and enjoyed many wonderful adventures together – traveling within the US and abroad, snow skiing, surfing, boating, hiking, waterskiing – but by far our greatest adventure together has been parenting our daughter Ellie.
The road that led us to Ellie was a bumpy one, but in the end, we had no doubt that we were meant to adopt and that she was meant to be our daughter. Shortly after our first year of marriage, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, and by our second anniversary, we learned that my endometriosis had severely damaged my ovaries. I had a couple of surgeries, and we went forward with fertility treatment, all the while praying that the Lord would bring us a baby, whether through the miracle of pregnancy or the miracle of adoption. Our prayer was answered in the most amazing way when an acquaintance, who was notarizing a fertility-related document for us, offered to introduce us to her niece. Her niece was six months pregnant and was looking for a family to adopt her baby. We arranged to meet with her niece the next weekend, and after spending a couple of hours together, she told us that she would like us to adopt her baby! Only two months after that initial meeting, we were blessed by the arrival of our beautiful baby girl. For us, God clearly chose adoption. And as we embark on this second adoption journey, it is not because it is our only option or our last resort, but because it is our greatest joy!
Adding to our joy in Ellie’s adoption is our open relationship with Ellie’s birthmother. It has been a blessing to share our delight in Ellie with her and to see her doing well. She is married now, is involved in parenting her two young stepsons, and is expecting a baby. We all enjoy our visits, and we love that Ellie is growing up knowing who her birthmother is and knowing how loved she is.
We’ve also been blessed by our entire family’s support in adopting. Our parents and siblings were elated when they found out we were adopting Ellie, and they are so excited for us to adopt again. My brother and his wife particularly share our passion for adoption as they adopted their daughter from China a little over a year ago. We love that Ellie and our future child will grow up with a cousin who shares the adoption experience.
If you’d like to learn more about us, please check out our profile book and video. Please don’t hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or would like to find out more about us. We wish the very best for you and your baby!
Stephanie & Jim
See our adoption video: Jim & Stephanie Adoption Video
See our profile book: Jim & Stephanie Profile Book