We want to start this letter by saying thank you! Thank you for taking the time to learn about us. Thank you for considering an adoption plan and thank you for potentially making our dreams come true. We can only imagine the tremendous stress you must be under. Please know that regardless of your decision we are praying for you and the baby and wish you nothing but peace and happiness.
While your family and our family are living different lives, the commonalities between us are many. We, too, have entrusted the care of our precious babies to others and can understand that heartache. While in our case it was temporary we hope that understanding will allow us to better connect with you. Both of our daughters were born prematurely, and they spent numerous weeks in the hospital being cared for by doctors and nurses. Our first daughter was born at 24 weeks and despite a valiant fight she passed away at 3 months old. We know the heartbreak of having to say goodbye all too well. Our second daughter was born at 34 weeks and is now a happy, healthy and rambunctious preschooler. Our pregnancy complications have started us down the path of adoption sooner than we had imagined. However, adoption has always been a conversation in our marriage and we are excitedly awaiting a placement call that would allow us to expand our family. We know our youngest would make a great big sister and she can’t wait for her new partner in crime.
Jason works as a software developer and I (Nicole) teach high school history. We both love our jobs, and we love our daughter’s daycare. Her teachers are so kind and patient with her and she has learned so many things in her time there. On the weekends, we enjoy family time in our backyard pool as well as walking and bike riding our family friendly neighborhood.
When the world allows it, we enjoy traveling as a family. Most of our trips are to visit family around the US and give our daughter the best chance to spend time with her family and explore the different cultures and experiences the US has to offer. We spend a lot of our vacation time at my parents’ farm in Maine. This farm allows for everyone to run, climb and search for sea glass on the beach. What better way to let kids (and adults) be kids?
We know as you consider entering this adoption journey, you are facing some of the most difficult decisions of your life. We hope to be able to support you through this process as much or as little as you would like. No child can have too many people who love them and we will maintain a level of openness that fits everyone and puts the baby’s needs first. Our entire family is excited to welcome a new member to our family. We hope and pray that God supports you through this journey and that in the end you find peace with your decision.
With Deepest Gratitude,
Nicole and Jason