Hello Birth Parent(s),
We understand you are looking at this letter as you try to figure out what your next step is. In 2017 we adopted our son, so after walking our side of the adoption journey once before we have witnessed just how incredibly hard it is to make the decision you’re facing. We hope that as you get to know us, you will find closure and peace in whichever choice you make.
But first, please allow us to share a little bit about ourselves. In 2009 our eyes met, but it was not “love at first sight”. When I first saw my rustic, small town husband, I thought, “Wow! He’s hairy.” And when he first laid eyes upon me—his quirky, big city wife—he thought, “She’s hot, but a little strange.” And so, our story began. For the next year we worked together as Resident Assistants at Evangel University and as our friendship grew, so did our love. On August 7, 2010, our official dating relationship began and on September 2, 2011 we became husband and wife. Five years later, we decided it was time to expand our family of two to a family of three. In May of 2016 we began the adoption process for the first time and just over a year later our beautiful son, Jadon, entered our world.
During our eight years of marriage, we have been able to pay off debts, travel, and renovate three houses. Paying off our debts was the first big milestone that freed us to travel and save for our future family. We’ve also been able to sell two houses and renovate three. With each new home, we have been able to gain some awesome new skills like laying flooring, painting walls like the pros, and rebuilding our deck. We are very hands-on and truly embrace the do-it-yourself mentality. For Derek, that DIY mindset is often used at work, where he has been the manager of his parents’ furniture store for seven years. He loves figuring out how to make the business better and trying out new methods to do so. For Rachel, it’s using those skills to manage our home: constantly reorganizing, decluttering, and whippin’ up all of our tasty food. Not to sound too cool or anything but we can figure out almost anything. Our son is quickly picking up on the “I can do that” attitude, too (one of his first phrases was “me do it”). Most of our family activities are centered around cooking, reading books, and playing with Jadon’s toy trucks (we do that A LOT). We also throw in some creative moments when we make our own finger paints or build cool cars using connecting toys.
We chose adoption not for health reasons or infertility concerns, but because of a deep sense that this is how our family is meant to be. Having the experience of an open adoption with Jadon’s birth mom has opened our minds and hearts to love far beyond ourselves. We understand and respect that an open adoption may not be for everyone, but having had face-to-face communication with Jadon’s birth mom and now getting to send her emails with pictures and updates on how Jadon is doing has been such a gift. We hope we can share this same gift with you if that’s what you choose.
Deciding whether to parent or place is heavy, so our prayer is for you to have complete peace during your journey.
Derek & Rachel
If you would like to see more photos of us beyond the profile book, please check our Sharesite webpage: https://adventureofanothersort.shutterfly.com/
We are represented by Nightlight Christian Adoptions. If you want more information about us or would like to meet us, please contact Nightlight at 866-832-3678.
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